Stop Complaining! – 04 June 2015

I have just finished watching the Steven Hawkins movie “The Theory of Everything” (Steve Hawkins is a famous Physicist who from a young age has suffered from motor neuron disease) here is this man who from a young age was diagnosed with a debilitating condition that gradually took away every form of movement, including speech (he uses a synthesizer to “talk” now), yet he married, had a tribe of kids, became a world renowned theoretical physicist and yet he always has this goofy smile and twinkling eyes…

During a press conference Dr Hawkins was asked;

“Mr Hawkins, you have said you do not believe in God, do you have a philosophy of life that helps you?”

To which he answered;

“It is clear that we are just an advanced breed of primates on a minor planet orbiting around a very average star in the outer suburb of one in maybe 100 billion galaxies, but ever since the dawn of civilization people have craved for an understanding of the underlying order of the world. There ought to be something very special about the boundary conditions of the universe and what can be more special than that there is no boundary. And there should be no boundary to human endeavor… we are all different, however bad life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. While there is life, there is hope”

Let’s remove any controversy about religion out of the discussion right now, the point has nothing to do with that, “…however bad life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. While there is life, there is hope”

Life happens, we all experience “up’s” and “down’s”, it is ATTITUDE that makes the difference, when something we percieve as “bad” happens, we can be forgiven a momentary decline into morbidity, we are human after all, but if there is one thing I cannot tolerate is perpetual self-pity!

“Oh woe is me, I have to move”

“Oh woe is me, I have such a terrible job”

“Oh woe is me, all my relationships are failures let me surround myself with 39 cats”

Very recently I had to set boundaries with one of these people, and the reaction, as expected, “oh I get it, you won’t be hearing from ME again”

FFS people, catch a wake up!

You submit yourself to a life of mediocrity, you sell yourself as a wage-slave and your life is so ruled by fear that you choose unhappy “security” over blissful insecurity!

You prostitute your life to fear, and then bemoan your self-chosen fate ad-nauseum until no-one can live with you and then complain (once again) that there are no good men/women left.

The Bible advises us “not to yoke ourselves unevenly with unbelievers” and I value that advice, with age comes wisdom (usually), once upon a time, my need for companionship and intimacy outweighed my better judgement and I put up with this kind of crap as the price to paid for “love”. But now, while I still crave love and intimacy, I refuse to sell myself short. Rather an empty bed, than a dripping tap in it!

I want to share my life with someone with a LOVE of life, someone who is vibrant and happy and fun and exciting…

Not someone who reaches for the Minora blades every time the milk goes sour.

Life is too short not to enjoy every minute of it, if you don’t like your job… leave! It’s up to YOU to create an income, and even a five-year old can earn money!

Bruce Lee was quoted as saying “Don’t pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”, at first I didn’t like that quote much, after all, who wants a difficult life? But now I’m understanding that wisdom, those who have never endured difficulty will create their own difficulties. The yin and the yang, the dark and the light, BOTH are necessary, for without the one, you cannot enjoy the other!

If you find yourself bemoaning your current situation, STOP right now!

Firstly, complaining about the “problem” is not going to solve it

Secondly, complaining about the “problem”, by the Law of Attraction, will just ADD to the problem

Thirdly, only YOU can solve the “problem”

Why do I “” the word “problem”? Because there are no “problems”, there are only opportunities! Some mornings I wake with hardly any money to my name, and then it’s an OPPORTUNITY to hustle, to make a plan, to get creative, and hey! I still have a roof over my head, I haven’t died of hunger or thirst, I have a vehicle I love, and at the end of that day, I smile to myself at the creativity and audacity I used to get those banknotes into my grubby paw 🙂

No-one likes an unhappy complainer, so many people want change, so few want TO change

Go Forth and be (happily) Awesome

All My Love


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